Shut down

gaslighting and manipulation

in the moment without pressure to "just leave"

Walking on Eggshells shows you exactly what to say and do to interrupt toxic interactions while they're happening, even if the other person doesn’t change.


For 11 years, I was gaslit and emotionally manipulated.

I didn’t know what to call it.

I just knew every argument left me confused, shaken, and doubting myself. Like I was always the problem.

And I had no idea how to deal with it.

Yet.

Those arguments made me miss our good times.

The moments that made me fall for him in the first place.

So, I spent years trying to “communicate better,” stay calm and prove that I wasn't who he said I was whenever we disagreed.

I thought, if I could just get him to really see and understand me, he'd appreciate me and things would change.

They didn’t.

What changed was me.

After years of many other lies and betrayals, I found out he was having an emotional affair — maybe more.

Even when I showed him proof, he kept gaslighting me.

He called me insecure.

Controlling.

Too sensitive.

He refused to end his "friendship", while knowing how much it hurt me.

I didn’t want to leave.

I loved him.

And the good moments were SO good.

But I was exhausted from getting sucked into the same arguments over and over — arguments that wreaked havoc on my emotions.

My sanity.

So, I did what everyone does:

I Googled.

I watched YouTube.

I learned everything I could about gaslighting and emotional manipulation.

I got clarity, but I still didn't know what to do about my relationship.

Because knowing something is wrong doesn’t automatically tell you what to do about it.

What clarity did do was this:

• I started trusting myself again.

• I saw the pattern while it was happening.

• I stopped doubting what I knew to be true — even when he denied it.

Once I saw it, I couldn’t unsee it.

And that’s when things started to change — even though the relationship hadn’t.

I learned how to shift my experience in the moment while everything else stayed the same.

How to stop getting baited into conversations that made me want to lose my sh*t or shut down.

How to stop questioning what I saw, what I heard, and what I felt in my gut.

I figured that part out the hard way.

Through trial and error.

While I stayed.

And now, you don’t have to.

Inside Walking on Eggshells, you'll learn exactly what I learned and did so you can:

• Stop getting sucked into the same vicious cycles of blame and self-doubt

• Trust and validate yourself without proving or convincing anyone that this isn't "all in your head"

• Understand how these things develop so guilt, shame and ruminating lose their grip

• Know what to do in the moment to interrupt confusion and overwhelm

• Stay grounded and connected to your truth, your reality and yourself — no matter what you’re being told

Don't spend one more day feeling stuck and defeated by a game that you never chose to play.

Learn how to handle these painful interactions now — without judgment, pressure, or being told what decision you should make.


Shut Down Gaslighting and Manipulation - In 8 Clear Steps

Walking on Eggshells doesn’t just help you see what’s happening.

It walks you through how your experience changes — step by step with no pressure to make decisions about your relationship.

Step 1: You stop blaming yourself for the confusion

You understand why these interactions leave you doubting yourself — and why it’s not because you’re too sensitive, bad at communicating, or imagining things.

That alone changes how you show up.

Step 2: You stop getting automatically hijacked

You notice the dynamics, the patterns and you catch yourself in the moment.

You’re still in it — but you’re not immediately as flooded, reactive, or scrambling to fix it.

Step 3: You stop explaining yourself

You see how explaining, defending, and trying to be understood feeds into it — and you stop doing the thing that keeps hurting you.

Less convincing.

More self-control.

Step 4: You interrupt the interaction

You no longer argue until you’re emotionally wrecked.

You know when to pause.

When to disengage.

When to walk away.

Step 5: You stop questioning what you know

Even when someone denies, paints a different picture, or confidently tells you you’re wrong, you still believe yourself.

What you saw.

What you heard.

What you felt in your gut.

Step 6: You recover faster afterward

The conversation ends — and it doesn’t take your whole nervous system with it.

Less replaying.

Less second-guessing.

Less emotional hangover.

Step 7: You start trusting yourself again

Not because the relationship suddenly changes — but because you do.

You’re no longer abandoning yourself and that changes everything.

Step 8: You know what to do when it happens again

This is where everything comes together.

You now have practical ways to handle these interactions before, during, and after they happen — so you don't lose yourself anymore.


What if I try this and they don’t change?

They might not.

It's not about controlling them.

It’s about changing what's happening for you: someone benefiting from your confusion

Even if they don’t change.

I’ve already tried boundaries and it didn’t work.

Did you try them while still hoping they’d finally understand?

Did you try them while doubting yourself the whole time?

This isn’t just “say this instead.”

It’s understanding the dynamic so when they try, it doesn’t work anymore.

What if I’m just being too sensitive?

Being sensitive doesn’t make you confused.

Question your memory.

Replay conversations trying to figure out what just happened.

Confusion is a sign that something’s off.

Which you already know.

I don’t want something that tells me to leave.

Good.

This doesn’t tell you to leave.

This isn’t about leaving.

It’s about not losing yourself without telling you to decide anything.

I feel ashamed that I’ve stayed.

This explains why staying made sense—without judging you for it.

Something inside you already knows this can’t keep going the way it has.

Loosen the grip of shame by understanding and interrupting the pattern.


What You'll Get From Walking On Eggshells

You're not buying a theory.

You're buying a different experience.

Section 8 shows you exactly how to shut sh*t down — before it wrecks you, while it’s happening, and after it ends — so you stop getting lost in the chaos.

You’ll learn how to:

Stop questioning what you saw, what you heard, and what you felt in your gut.

Walk into conversations feeling grounded and aware.

Decide in advance what you will not argue about.

Stop getting baited into conversations that make you want to lose your sh*t or shut down.

Catch the exact moment when the conversation derails.

Stop trying to convince and getting pulled into the same cycle.

Repeat a boundary while staying calm.

Handle sudden shifts to kindness, blame, or anger without folding.

Disengage before you lose control.

Protect yourself if things get too intense.

Interrupt rumination and spirals after it’s over so you don’t replay it all night.

Anchor yourself in what you know to be true.

This section alone changes how you experience the relationship.

Even if they don’t change.

Especially if they don’t.


Sections 1–7: Key Insights That Make It All Make Sense

You’ll understand:

· Why you started doubting yourself.

· Why the arguments always go in circles.

· Why communicating “better” doesn't work.

· How manipulation hides inside "normal" conversations.

· Why you've stayed — without shaming yourself for it.

· What gaslighting actually does to your mind and body.

· How to recognize the pattern while it’s happening.

Clarity isn’t validation alone.

It's your solid ground to stand on.


Short Companion Audios For Sections 1–7

Under 2 minutes each.

1 recording per section.

When you’re too busy or exhausted to read, you can listen for reinforcement.

So that you stay clear when it matters most.

*Plus 2 longer bonus audios for added support*

Bonus Resources

Tools that helped me personally.

No overwhelm.
No diagnosing.
No pressure to leave.

You're learning what I did to:

Stay grounded.
Stop explaining.
Exit earlier.
Trust yourself.
And shut it down — without blowing up your life.

Things start feeling differently when you start doing things differently.


Hear From Others Who Relate To What You're Going Through

“This is something that I wish I would have been able to read when I was going through this. This is something that happens to other people. ‘There is nothing wrong with you’ — those were the words I needed.”

Reader

“Thank you so much for your ebook. You got me on the journal entry! I loved the audio version because I was able to listen while doing other things. Lots of things clicked and I will be re-listening when I feel stuck or start questioning myself/what is real. Thankful for you!”

Reader

“I didn't get bored at any point and felt seen ?”

Reader

“I just finished reading the e-book and listening to the audio x2. Thank you so much for being open and vulnerable with parts of your journey. I felt alllll the feels, but most importantly, I have never felt more seen/understood and empowered. This was the read I didn’t know I needed and it provided the utmost clarity of my inner dialogue.”

Reader

“I'm reading it right now and everything I've read so far is ME!!! I was numb to the feelings. It's really making me think.”

Reader

What This Is Already Costing You

Your peace.

Your self-trust.

Your sleep.

Your nervous system.

The erosion of your confidence.

This isn’t just “conflict.”

It’s living in a dynamic that challenges your overall well-being.

That has a cost that can't be measured.

You Can Keep Doing The Same And Hope for Change

More convincing.

More persuading.

More explaining yourself.

More defending what you felt.

More hoping they’ll finally see it.

Or —

You stop participating at your own expense.

Today: Shut Down Gaslighting and Manipulation

$28

Practical ways to respond — or not — while preserving your sanity.

Respond differently now, without pressure to leave.

8 clear-cut sections + 7 brief audios.

Bonus resources + 2 bonus audios.

Immediate download.


My Promise To You

I created this from my personal experience to support you.

I want you to feel confident when you buy it.

If it resonates, I trust you'll honor the care and time I invested to share this with you.

If, within 48 hours of purchase, you begin reading and feel this truly isn’t for you, email me at connect@theattunedshift.com.

Tell me what didn’t resonate, and I’ll refund you.

After 48 hours, all sales are final.


Frequently Asked Questions

Who is this NOT for?

If you are in physical danger, this resource is NOT for you. If reading content like this puts you at risk, please STOP reading. The information in this resource assumes you can apply it without putting your safety at risk. If you do not have that space, your priority is safety. If you are at risk of immediate danger, please reach out for support when it's safe for you to do so. https://www.thehotline.org/

Is this going to tell me to leave?

No. I specifically wrote this for anyone being told to "Just leave" or Why didn't you just leave?" for those who already did. This is about how you experience the dynamic — not what you decide to do about the relationship. No judgment. No pressure. No shaming.

I’ve already read about gaslighting. How is this different?

Most content explains the pattern and leaving to make it stop. This offers you options for what to do while you're still in it. Before. During. After. It’s practical and was created via what I learned from my actual experiences.

What if I try this and they don't change?

They may not. This isn’t about changing them. It’s about you no longer participating in a dynamic that only works at your expense. This is about shifting what inside of you.

What if I've tried setting boundaries but didn't stick to them?

Understanding gives you something to stand on. When you see the dynamic clearly, you understand why guilt and overwhelm hits and why you second-guess yourself. You remember that it's the whole point of the pattern. Context helps you reinforce your belief in your boundaries. And when you believe in them, you’re far less likely to abandon them.

Is this about diagnosing my partner?

No. What matters is your experience. Labels aren't needed to shift it. What you call it is less important than what you're dealing with.

Is this therapy?

No. It’s an educational resource based on my lived experience and professional insight. It does not replace professional therapy or medical advice. If you need clinical support, please seek therapy in your area.

Why are there audios?

To have brief and convenient reminders of the first 7 sections meant to anchor you. Hearing the reinforcement can help you stay anchored when doubt creeps in.


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